20 Weeks6 Days: A quick share

I want to share something that I stole from the Cleftpals Victoria website. I thought it might help to explain to those that can't understand why we are so upset about this problem that can "easily be fixed with surgery". It is taken from a speech given by Rosie Giddings at the Anual Scientific Meeting of the Aus Tetrology Society:

 

When a couple are expecting their child they may have an intellectual understanding that they stand a 2% chance

of having a child with a birth defect but emotionally they usually cannot accept this could happen to them. If they

are one of the 2% it is often very difficult for them to accept emotionally that their child isn't perfect.

Parents need their own time to grieve the loss of their perfect child. For some parents this may take only a few

minutes, whilst for others it may take years. Parents need understanding and support to come to terms with their

grief. Parents who have dealt with these emotions are usually better able to cope with the problem themselves

and thus support, care for and love their child.

So, while we appreciate that those people are saying that to try and help, its important to understand that we ARE hurting in this. Over all though, the support is amazing and I can't quite beleive it. So thank you to every one who is standing by our side :)